by Lee Chabin, Esq.        Here are some additional thoughts from Mr. Chabin on the value of the Collaborative Practice approach to divorce: http://www.nyparenting.com/stories/2013/2/fp_divorcecolumn_2013_02.html              Every divorcing couple has a choice to make:  How will we get divorced?  What process shall we use? The answer can have tremendous repercussions, emotionally as well as financially for your children as well as for yourselves. In this column, I will discuss one process:  Litigation (going to court). Litigation is usually the most expensive, antagonistic and emotionally difficult process for ending a marriage.  I’m...

by Lee Chabin, Esq. Divorce is hard on adults and children alike.  But, unlike adults, children have little or no say in what happens.  Even if you were not the one to initiate the divorce, no doubt there are many decisions you will get to (have to?) make, perhaps including whether to remain at your current job, and which neighborhood to live in.  Our kids, on the other hand, will live and attend school where we (or a judge) decide. None of us like to feel out of control, and where we can, it is wise to grant our children the power to make their own decisions – up to a point. Let’s take the example of a new home. Pretend that you have...