The process of divorce can be problematic for any couple, but it is particularly difficult for couples whose psychological well-being is threatened by the ending of the relationship. Many high-conflict couples find that when they have exhausted options in making their relationship work, their core anxieties are exacerbated by a divorce process that generally approaches separation in a zero-sum manner. This paper is describes who these couples are and explores why divorce is so threatening to their psychologies. An additional purpose is to propose an approach that facilitates an amicable separation. Such an approach involves a collaborative...

When going through a divorce, there are unlimited resources to support you, such as legal, financial and emotional, but there is one HUGE piece of the puzzle that is not being addressed. This missing piece is essential and considered a foundational life skill when dealing with a stressful and emotional situation, especially a divorce. Let me explain… As a Divorce Mentor for over ten years, I have heard many reasons why couples want a divorce, such as not feeling heard, understood, appreciated, respected and/or just not compatible. As one client said, “We just can’t seem to get along. We don’t enjoy or want the same things in life.” Combine...

In September of 2013, the Nelsons marriage was dissolved.  They had made a choice from the start that they wanted to avoid conflict, argument, acrimony.  So they used the Collaborative Practice process to reach the decisions they needed in order to end their marriage. They very generously agreed to chat about their difficult but positive experience and share their encouragement that other couples use the process that served them well. With much thanks to Pamela and Tyler Nelson, and to their attorneys Joryn Jenkins and Adam B. Cordover, here is our chat: Note for professionals: Adam and Joryn are very involved in the Collaborative Divorce...